Most of what you need to know to help you in life can be found on the internet.
You just ask Google and the websites that it points you to.
To get fitter.
To run a better business.
To find a partner.
To learn how to speak French.
To learn how to make a fish pie.
To help you through deep feelings of depression.
To keep you here.
On the face of it, help is readily available, relatively cheap or free.
Help.
There is however a much much more powerful help out there.
It’s a much more valuable kind of help and it can only come from another human being.
That person has to be genuinely engaged, ask the right questions, listen properly and then mix all of what they learn from you with all of the knowledge, experience and caring they have inside – or that they can get access to.
The good news is that this is most people.
Ask.
I am making this distinction (between Internet help and people help) because lots of people, including me, don’t ask for people help.
They may ask Google instead.
It takes a lot to ask another person for help.
To make myself think about asking for help, I try to remember how nice I feel when I help someone else.
So if I choose not to ask people for help, I am denying them the nice feelings they afforded me when they allowed me to help them am I not?
Reach.
If you need help with something, ask someone.
And don’t be fed up if you ask the wrong person the first few times.
Help is out there.
All you have to do is be patient, reach out – and ask.
