Here’s a good idea.
Whenever you are about to say anything.
Anything at all.
To anyone at all.
Just before you do.
Ask yourself a simple question.
Ask yourself how you think what you’re about to say will make them feel.
Then, if you like, you can go a bit further…
List (in your mind) three of the things that you anticipate they’ll feel.
And see how you feel about yourself.
See how you feel about the fact that you are about to – consciously – make another human being feel this way.
This is about focus.
Focus away from what you say.
To how what you say makes people feel.
It’s helped me.
(And whoever I talk to, as well).
Which is a good thing.