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If you feel like you don’t know what you’re doing.

Thank goodness!

Because it means you’re ‘doing’.

And if you’re ‘doing’.

It means you started.

Beyond.

But what have you started?

And where are you going?

What is beyond you not knowing what you are doing?

Well if you think about what was beyond almost every single bloody thing you have ever done.

In your whole life.

That started off with you not knowing what you are doing.

Then you will remember in a heartbeat that beyond not knowing what you are doing.

Is knowing what you are doing.

And beyond knowing what you are doing.

(If you keep on going, that is).

Is being pretty bloody good at what you are doing.

And beyond being pretty bloody good at what you are doing.

Is.

(If you keep going long enough).

Expert!

Start.

So never forget that.

If you feel like you don’t know what you’re doing.

Thank goodness!

Because it means you’re ‘doing’.

And if you’re ‘doing’.

It means you did what most people don’t do.

It means you started.

We are not what we say.

We are what we do.

And I am beginning to notice.

More and more.

That there are those that do, and don’t talk.

And there are those that talk, and don’t do.

National Governing Bodies.

This is not a post about politics.

Or race.

Or sport, even.

It’s just a post about the fact that

I am beginning to notice.

More and more.

That there are those that do, and don’t talk.

And there are those that talk, and don’t do.

And a neat illustration of this.

Happens to be when I listen to Sport’s National Governing Bodies talk about their commitment to inclusivity.

Juxtaposed with the infographic I’ve pasted alongside this short story.

Bad People?

What they say on this subject doesn’t make them bad people.

But I definitely think that the things they say on this subject.

Once we take a peep in their boardroom.

Show them to be absolutely and totally.

Full.

Of.

Shit.

Do.

We are not what we say.

We are what we do.

Here’s the infographic: https://www.50odd.co.uk/do.

I want to go to London.

I am not sure if it’s because I really love it there.

Or if it is because I am not allowed to go.

But whatever it is.

I really want to go to London right now.

London.

I like going to London because it’s so busy.

And because I meet up with a handful off really nice people.

And most of all because of the hustle and the bustle I think.

The vibrancy.

And the possibility.

Home. 

I like coming home too, though.

Coming back from London.

To Newcastle.

That feeling is just as good as going to London, actually.

London.

But I really want to go to London.

Maybe because I really love it there.

Maybe because I am not allowed to go.

But whatever it is.

I really want to go to London right now.

Michael Jordan was celebrated because of his talent.

Dedication.

Bouncebackability.

Agression.

Resilience.

Physical fitness.

Business acumen.

And a lot more besides.

But the thing that impressed me most about him.

Was his ability to ‘be here now’.

His ability to be present.

Worry. 

Michael Jordan.

Apparently.

Didn’t worry about the past.

And he didn’t worry about the future, either.

He saw missing shots in his past as a part of the game.

And when he was asked about coping with difficult shots in his future.

He would frown.

And through that frown.

He would say:

Why would I worry about missing a shot I haven’t taken yet?

Present.

I like that.

I like that Michael Jordan saw no benefit in projecting the past into the future.

Neither the bad things from the past.

Nor the good things from the past.

Be here now.

Be present.

Good advice.

Take a look at the photograph with this story.

Here.

Here it is: https://www.50odd.co.uk/the-tree/.

It’s a tree.

Just to the right of the tree.

Your right as you’re looking at it.

Lisa’s right as she took her daughter’s photograph, I mean.

That’s Izobel.

The Tree.

I suppose the tree will be a few hundred years old right now.

And Izobel is 3.

I wonder if the tree worried about what it was for in it’s earlier years?

Like I did in my earlier years.

Like I do now.

And then I remember something.

I remember that if that tree was an oak tree.

(It’s probably not an oak tree.

I don’t know trees).

It wouldn’t have produced its first acorn for 50 years.

And that makes me feel a little bit better.

50.

As George Lois reminds us in his neat wee book, ‘Damn Good Advice (For People With Talent!)’

Charles Darwin was 50 when he wrote, ‘On the Origin of Species.’

Ray Croc was 52 when he emerged as the catalyst for the acceleration of the McDonald’s Restaurants global empire.

Colonel Sanders was 60 when he started KFC.

Frank McCourt, a New York schoolteacher wrote Angela’s Ashes at 66.

And won a Pulitzer Prize for it at 67.

52. 

I’m nearly 52.

I wonder what I’ll do when I grow up?

When you’re looking forward.

Pick ‘suspense’ and smile.

Don’t pick ‘worry’.

When you’re looking back.

Pick ‘nostalgia’ and smile.

Don’t pick ‘regret’.

Self-talk.

I have to remind myself of these choices.

In my self-talk.

Because I do worry.

And I do have regrets.

But both are a waste of bloody time.

So from now on.

I will try to remember.

Suspense and Nostalgia.

When I’m looking forward.

Pick ‘suspense’ and smile.

Don’t pick ‘worry’.

And when I’m looking back.

Pick ‘nostalgia’ and smile.

Don’t pick ‘regret’.

This is really useful guidance.

For when you are next thinking about buying a piece of clothing.

Find Out.

Find out about where, why, how and by whom the piece is made.

Then.

Knowing those things.

Consider whether you like the piece more.

Or less.

More or Less.

If, once you know where, why, how and by whom the piece is made.

You like it more.

Buy it.

And if, once you know where, why, how and by whom the piece is made.

You like it less.

Don’t.

I have no idea what to do as a dad.

And the main reason is because I never had a dad.

What I had instead.

Was a gap.

Eyes Closed Shut.

I am mindful of this gap.

And what I mean by that.

Is that I think about the gap.

I think about and try to imagine what advice a dad might have given me about becoming a dad myself.

I think about and try to imagine what experiences that I might have had with a dad.

Experiences that would guide me once I myself became one.

And I have to say that the thinking and the imagining does have some merit.

As I picture things.

Eyes closed shut.

With a smile on my face.

Dads.

Michael Jordan’s dad.

According to Michael Jordan.

(And let’s face it.

A son or daughter’s description of a dad is the most important of all in many ways).

Was:

He was the voice of reason.

He drove me.

He challenged me.

And these few words are useful to me, actually.

As I try to learn.

About dadness.

My dadness.

Mind The Gap.

I have no idea what to do as a dad.

And the main reason is because I never had a dad.

What I had instead.

Was a gap.

But I have come to realise that wherever I have a gap.

There is an opportunity.

There is an opportunity to put my imagination to work.

To imagine anything I like.

And I do believe that if I imagine it.

Eyes closed shut.

With a smile on my face.

I can be it.

Everyone can matter to someone.

But no one can matter to everyone.

Someone and Everyone.

This fact.

(And it is a fact.

That I will file under, ‘Things to tell Izobel’).

Is worth remembering in two very precise circumstances.

And if you do remember this fact in these two very precise circumstances.

Your chances of being happy, relaxed and successful.

With both.

Is vastly improved.

And here they are:

  1. When you are building a brand.
  2. Absolutely anything at all to do with absolutely anything at all you ever do as a human being.